Love Kills Porn

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Matthew 22:37-40: Jesus replied: “ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

Jesus said that the most important thing is to love God and then to love others.  This raises that question then, what is love? In culture today we are told the most important thing is finding love, a person has to love us for us to be valuable, and that love equals sex. But these are lies. This entire ideology is merely a scheme to pull us into this cycle of hurt and abuse. Pornogaphy is a very big example of this.  It offers the illusion of love, but it’s not really love.  It’s an empty source. Real love is not shown by sexual desire or even physical intimacy, but by respect and value of another person. It requires trust and caring for another’s needs higher than your own.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

In verses one through three of 1 Corinthians 13, it says that love is the most important thing, and that without it everything we do is in vain. If Jesus is Lord of our lives, everything we do must be rooted in love because He is Love.  However, pornography, while it often tries to present itself as love, is a direct contradiction to love.

Love is patient. Porn does not wait patiently for what God has for us.  It looks only to gratify itself here and now. Love is kind. Porn is not kind. Iit manipulates and abuses people. Love does not envy. Porn is lustful and greedy. Love does not dishonor others. Porn objectifies people and treats them as if they are worthless and only for our own pleasure. Love is not self-seeking. Porn is all about what we like and what we want.  It looks out only for itself.  Love is not easily angered. Porn fuels selfishness which will grow anger. Love does not delight in evil. Watching porn is finding delight and enjoyment in something evil. Love rejoices in truth. Porn lives a lie. Porn distorts how people really are. Love always protects. Porn hurts.  It hurts more people than you think, and it hurts them deeply. Love always trusts. Porn destroys trust.

I’ve heard the saying “porn kills love”, and it sure looks like it does. It is true that pornography contradicts everything that true love is. Porn has many negative effects on us when we watch it; effects that will hurt not just us but also the people we love most. Pornography can be devastating, but you probably already know that.  What I want to tell you today is that there is hope! There is hope because porn cannot kill love. Real love is greater than sin. Real love is greater than porn. Real love heals and restores.

It can be scary to think about the effects pornography has on our minds and our hearts, but we have to remember the healing power of God! His healing power reaches far beyond any damage and way deeper than any hurt ever can. We do not have to feel broken or afraid. God is love, and there is no fear in love. Perfect love casts out fear. Perfect love sees the deepest, darkest parts of us and still says, “I accept you. I want you. I see you as priceless.”  Perfect Love defeated sin on the cross! Love killed sin. Love killed porn. When we run to Jesus – who is Love Himself – porn dies. The greater, fuller love we find in Him overcomes the hold porn has on our heart, mind, and life. The deeper more powerful love in Him heals the wounds of porn and clears away the lies it has taught us. Love restores us. Loves wins.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” – 1 Corinthians 13:13

~Amanda & Grant

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